Resilience is needed to cope with chronic illness

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My wife, Deborah Brogan, MD, was a board certified psychiatrist. We were married when she was 28 years old. She was not expected to live beyond the age of 40. She lived to be 61 years old and did private practice until she was 58 years old. She also worked at Arizona State University on their eating disorders team for 22 years after we were married. Prior to all of this, she worked at Albany County mental health clinic in albany, New York for 3 years. Prior to this, she spent seven years with medical school and a psychiatric residency.

She had severe juvenile diabetes since she was 12 years old. In 1998, 19 years before death in 2017, she had a kidney-pancreas transplant which was necessary because of the diabetes. She was hospitalized about 30 times, and continued working in between hospitalizations.

She was fond of the above “Elements of Resilience” and incorporated it into psychotherapy with her patients in private practice. It is good guidance in what to strive for to meet the challenges of life. It is a good summary of what helps me to cope with multiple sclerosis. It is the spirit I try to convey in my book, “Multiple Sclerosis Mission Remission: Healing MS Against All Odds” at

Multiple Sclerosis Mission Remission: Healing MS Against All Odds

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MS Healing Post 1:

The Thunder-clap 
 
I was having trouble with my eyesight. Double vision was new for me. I was dropping things I held for no reason. My balance was unsteady and I would sometimes fall down seemingly for no reason. My wife, being the board certified psychiatrist that she is, insisted that I consult with a neurologist.  Numerous tests and procedures were performed (to be described later). It was time for us to meet with the good doctor and hear the results.
When we went to obtain the results, the neurologist mumbled a few words at me and looked down at the floor while he spoke. I processed nothing of what he was saying to me. Repression is a remarkable phenomenon. He met with my wife for what seemed like a long time. Driving back from the doctor’s office to Arizona State University Student Health where my wife was the psychiatrist on the eating disorders team, Debby was uncharacteristically quiet.
When we drove into Student Heath and I stopped the car to let her out, I found out why.
“Well, I guess we will keep trying to figure out what is going on with me,” I said with resignation. “What are you talking about? The MS looks severe,” she said. Deborah never suffered a fool well.
“MS?”
With disbelief Dr. Deborah Brogan said, “Didn’t he tell you that you have MS, multiple sclerosis?”
“What?” I asked.
Debby, answered, “You heard me. The doctor said you have multiple sclerosis.”
So it began, my fifteen-year journey through purgatory. I thought I must have made serious mistakes in a previous life. At the time it seemed as good an explanation as any for why I contracted multiple sclerosis, MS.
 I have lost the bet. You thought that you had been so healthy most of your life—surely you would not contract a neurodegenerative disease.
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The above is an excerpt from my book “Multiple Sclerosis Mission Remission: Healing MS Against All Odds.” It is available at 

 https://www.amazon.com/Multiple-Sclerosis-Mission-Remission-Healing-ebook/dp/B07D7JBZ5L/ref=mp_s_a_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1529367853&sr=8-2&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65&keywords=multiple+sclerosis+Mission+remission

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